The first sexual assault was by a group of men when I was abducted at 17. Of course I did not go to the police. This was Christchurch in the late 70’s. You just knew you did not go to the police. The next was when my husband raped me twice, after we had broken up. Of course I did not go to the police. They never believe that husbands rape wives. The third was more insidious. Not rape, but the public threat of rape with extreme violence to shut me up. That one I did go to the police. just last year. Guess what? No crime was committed. It is ok to threaten to rape grandmothers in NZ.