I was abused by a family member for years. I found the strength to speak out, and he was convicted. However, I had learnt that me body was my real worth. I also learnt that it was my responsibility to make myself safe, to not let this happen to me again. So when I was date raped at the age of 15, I blamed myself. If only I hadn’t gotten into his car. If only I hadn’t been dressed the way I was. Had I somehow said “Yes” even though he never asked? I blamed myself for so long that I kept silent for ten years… even though I knew I wasn’t to blame for my childhood abuse, I blamed myself for my adult rape. This is my experience of Rape Culture.