A couple of years after I was molested by my uncle ( mother’s brother), I told my parents. My mother said in a scathing tone ” at least you didn’t blame my father, since he is dead and can’t defend himself”. I said “why would I blame Granddad, it wasn’t him”. She never explained that ridiculous statement, but I’ve despised her ever since. She has always been dismissive of any problems I’ve had and I’m sure she believed I “asked for it” since I was wearing shorts.